The Holiday Season is upon us. Some of us experienced a different kind of Thanksgiving than years past but as the covid rates increase around the world and with the news of a mutated strain of the virus active in the U.K., it is clear that our end of the year festivities will be quite different from the traditional celebrations we have grown accustomed to.
Perhaps it is baking cookies with the family or friends. Family from out of state flying or driving in to celebrate with loved ones. Or the array of holiday parties that usually take place this time of year. Even families living in the same city are choosing not to get together to ensure everyone stays healthy and covid-free through the holidays.
It can feel a bit sad to not celebrate as we always have. It is okay to feel sad and be with that feeling. But as any of our celebrated holidays near, it is helpful to begin the process of accepting.
Acceptance is learning to be okay with what is. With traditional events or celebrations we may have become accustomed to expect certain things to happen, to have certain foods, or to be with all of our family on a certain holiday. Can we let go of our expectations? Can we be okay with a different kind of celebrating this year?
Acceptance is not easy. It is a practice. You may find that you can accept today but tomorrow the feeling of missing what was arises. Celebrate these memories of years past and try not to get too attached to what was or what was supposed to be. Can you accept what is?
Steps towards accepting holiday celebrations this year:
- Reflect on what aspects of celebrations past that you really enjoyed. Write them down or share with a family member or friend.
- Find joy and gratitude in what is. Can you list 1-3 things that you are grateful for this year? Not traveling could be one.
- Brainstorm a new way of celebrating. Imagine you are planning for a new tradition that will be carried out for years to come. What fun or relaxing things will you do? What foods will you enjoy? How can you make this holiday special in your own, new way?